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Violence Against Seniors By Family!

Abuse immediately makes me see red. So, I had to sit down and calm myself before attempting this post and I make no promises that I won’t use offensive language. I will try but I can’t promise.

This particular piece is about elder abuse, so don’t do the “What about “XYZ” abuse”. All forms of abuse are inexcusable but this? This is about the abuse of a massive group of vulnerable people.

This abuse is occurring in the homes of the seniors, a place where they should feel safe, secure. It is happening in long term care institutions, hospitals, and centres d’acceuil (I can’t think of the English words…kind of like a seniors residence but with care). There’s no excuse, everyone is a P.O.S, no one more than another, family members, friends, nurses, hospital/care center staffers.

Oh I hear some now; “You don’t know the stress!” Wrong. I do. I know how hard it is to deal with an elderly individual who is losing cognitive function, who is losing control over bodily functions, late night ambulance calls, doctor appointments, tests, dangerous episodes of forgetfulness, all while trying to hold down a full time job and maintain a home.

There has to be more support for caregivers, at home, in the various residences/institutions but it won’t happen. No one is willing to pay for the kind of aid required. Senior residences are in it for the $$$, public institutions don’t have the funds and care by family? The latter are completely forgotten; oh sure, you can get a grant for assistance tools – stabilizing bars for the shower…etc. Big freaking deal.

I wish I could hold out with some optimism but I’ve been around too long. Nothing will happen, Stats-Can are free to run as many studies as they wish but it all amounts to nothing but wasted time, while senior are beaten, forgotten and left to die, alone. We are judged by who we treat our most vulnerable and we are failing, monumentally, with our treatment of seniors.

In Montreal, the Elder Abuse Line can be reached at 1-888-489-2287 or 514-489-2287. This bilingual, confidential help line is available for seniors who are victims of exploitation, abuse, or neglect, as well as their families, friends, neighbors, and the general population. The line is a provincial government service and offers support and referrals for those in need

https://www.msn.com/en-ca/news/canada/family-violence-against-seniors-reaches-record-high-in-canada-statscan-report/vi-AA1PHb19?ocid=socialshare

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I Saw You

I saw you yesterday, at Uniprix, in the Pointe-Claire Shopping Centre. I was waiting at one cash and I could see you, hear you, clearly. You were with your mother. She had a walker. You were helping her pay for her items. It was very obvious that your mom has dementia or Alzheimer’s.

You spoke to her with such love, such patience, such kindness. She couldn’t remember what she bought and you explained it to her; you weren’t condescending or impatient. You spoke as if she had not already asked the same question. You treated her with dignity, helped her pay for her items. As you walked by me, I heard her ask you if she had paid and you assured her that she had. You let her walk on her own, with just a light touch on her arm. You made my heart sing. You put such a lovely glow on the day. Watching your devotion, seeing that love you have for her in your eyes.

I saw you again, sitting on a bench with your father, showing your mother’s purchases. She had forgotten what she had bought – you explained it to her with patience. I slowed my pace just so I could hear that loving tone to your voice.

You reminded me of how lucky I had been to care for my own mother in her last few years with us. You reminded me how much I loved her and how much I miss her. In a world with horror on every page, with articles of the forgotten elderly, of their abuse; I saw you and it made me happy to know that your parents will never be forgotten, will never be abused when you are at the switch.

Thank you and bless you.

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